12 Aug The Importance of Being Your Own Guru
Since the beginning of Spirit Science, we have discussed the importance of the power of thoughts. In fact, it is the very basis of episode 1! With that said, the power of manifesting your dreams coming true using your thoughts is a remarkable and inspiring idea, one which propels people into a state of active participation with their lives when they realize that they have a creative power within it. This is however, just the tip of the iceberg.
What we often fail to fully grasp is just how powerful thoughts truly are; it not only has the power to shape our own lives and the world around us, but the lives of others. It also has the power to influence others ways of thinking; for the better, or for the worse.
In a recent article we published we explored the psychology of raising children, which looked at the various stages in life and where we learn predominant human traits. You may have noticed that regardless of what stage in life you are at, there is always one predominant experience; this is that we are always in a constant state of learning. Even if we become ignorant and choose not to push ourselves forward and grow, there is still learning that comes from this.
With that being said, we have to be very full of care about how we choose to learn, making sure to think carefully about things, observe how we feel about them, check with our “guides”, “angels”, “higher selves”, or very simply, our own “critical mental analysis”. We need to make sure that we are taking steps in the direction that is best for ourselves and those around us. It is all too easy to give away our power to others, when we believe that they will be the answer to our problems, or guide us in our lives. This is the subject of today’s article, because the truth is – you have to be your own guru.
Experience is one of the most valuable teachers of all, because it gives us first hand knowledge on which paths we choose to walk. Since you are always in the driver’s seat of your life, you have to be the one to make the decisions of who you listen to, which paths you avoid, what you bring into your life and what you let go of. Nobody can make those decisions for you – but here’s the tricky part… unless you are careful, it is very easy to come to believe that they can.
Spiritual power is one of the most powerful energies out there, but it is also one of the most dangerous. When someone believes that another person has “the answers”, it becomes very easy to put all of their faith in that person. This can lead to giving up on their own inner truth because they believe that following the word of someone else is better for them or is more powerful than their own realizations or life experiences. What’s worse is that when a plethora of people now flock to the one person for answers, it can become very easy for that individual to start observing themselves as something “special” or “different”, and see themselves as a special spiritual master above all of the rest. This concept goes by many names, one such you might be familiar with is the “messiah complex” or just basic egotism, and these things are far too common especially in the new age world of today.
Of course, this is not to say that it’s not valuable to listen to each other; quite the contrary. By listening to the insights of others, and building our understanding based off of the experiences of those who came before us we are able to really expand beyond our own internal thought patterns and grow to new heights. Whether this information comes from our peers, elders, or ancient Greek philosophers upon which all of our modern understanding is based off of.
The key here is what you choose to do with this new information. You have the key to the vehicle which is your own body and soul, use them to drive yourself through life and explore what this life story is really all about for you! If you give that key to others, then you can almost assuredly expect them to simply not have the capacity to live your life for you the way that you really want it to be lived; they will live it the way that they want to live it. It is worth mentioning that when we say “others”, we are speaking about actual living humans, and not spiritual avatars from earth’s history, like angels or ascended masters.
Giving up our personal power into the hands of another can actually be seen as lazy, because then we don’t have to feel as responsible for our decisions as they were based on someone else’s suggestion. However, you are still responsible for your actions, even if they were actions dictated by someone else and regardless of whether or not you even agreed with them in the first place. Sometimes, it’s just easier to follow the herd than to listen to your heart, but that doesn’t mean that it is the best path, nor does it always yield the best outcomes.
In addition to the simple mistakes that we can all make in life, there is also the greater inconvenient truth that some people are simply out to take advantage of others. They may even believe they are doing the most honest and virtuous thing in life, but their words, actions, and other forms of communications all align with the idea that they are out to “get what’s theirs” at any expense, including the emotional, mental, or physical well-being of others.
This is the part that we have to be incredibly careful about, and probably the most important reason why we all need to learn to be our own gurus. If we can learn to spot the behavioral patterns associated with someone who is more interested in manipulation than they are of co-creation, then you know you have a problem. One very common energy we have experienced is when someone says “You are so amazing and gifted, you just need my guidance in order to go the places that you really want to go!”, or “If you really want to accomplish this dream, then you should come and do it with me, because I know how to do it”. Of course, this isn’t the direct verbiage always used, but it definitely can be the vibe experienced.
Now of course, if you are feeling compelled in the moment to try creating with someone who feels like they might have this energy, but yet also have some valuable information that you want to learn, just remember to be careful to what degree you are investing. Put yourself in fully, but stay in your own driver’s seat, so that if ever a time comes when you feel you are ready to move on, you can do so without feeling trapped or restricted, unable to move and shift because of an opposing energy holding you back from following your own inner calling.
We’d like to reiterate that it’s not everyone who is like this, in fact it’s probably safe to say that the majority of people in the world really are honest and hardworking people and wouldn’t go out of their way to take advantage of others – and everyone makes mistakes, so we should always practice forgiveness of each other. It’s just important to be aware of the infinite possibilities that can manifest while living a human life, for positive and for negative. People who are manipulative often act this way as a defensive mechanism created from their childhood or traumas that they experienced. So again, practicing forgiveness and empathy in those situations is key to greater peace and understanding.
One powerful example of this entire philosophy comes from the documentary film Kumare, in which an american man named Vikram Gandhi dresses up as an indian guru named Kumare, and gains a following of spiritual enthusiasts. Throughout his teachings he uses many metaphors and phrases that suggest he is not real but is an illusion, and that they need to be their own gurus, and even Kumare himself learns many deep spiritual truths by spending time with his new found followers. In the end, he reveals himself to be a normal american man, and shocks all of his followers; most of which by this point are very accepting of him, because they learned through his own teachings that they don’t need a guru, the real and only guru is within.
Here is a trailer for this film; if you haven’t seen it, it is a must watch!!
When you are your own Guru, then you get to be the leader of your life, the predominant learner of your life, and you can have the experiences that you want to have, and learn the lessons that you need to learn, rather than the lessons that someone else wants you to learn.
Go with the flow, trust in your heart, and don’t forget to share this article with someone you love.